Raising Blondes with Redhead Attitude

Raising Blondes with Redhead Attitude

Monday, July 29, 2013

Sister Love

When I found out our second child was indeed a girl, the mixture of emotions was indescribable. There was shock and a little bit of sorrow for the son I had imagined. There was fear in dealing with all the things having two girls would mean. The fighting, the drama, the mood swings and so much more. All those emotions and many more were fleeting though, because the main emotion, the one that came 2.6 seconds after Hubbins announced we had a girl, was JOY. I couldn't wait to watch the bond between my sister girls grow. It was something I craved as a child. Yes, I  have an amazing step sister but our relationship didn't really take flight till after high school. So, with the summer glimpses into what having a sister really could mean growing up, I was over the moon to know my girls would have all of that.

It's taken time to get to where they are now. At first Ladybug wanted nothing to do with her sister. I feared that I had some how wronged my first born in bringing another girl into the world. That they would grow up resenting each other presence. But in time, truly once lil Giraffe could really interact and play, the girls have become inseparable. They are best friends and defend each other always. I love this. I love how well they play together and how quickly they come to each others side when one of them is hurting or in trouble. These are the moments I want to engrave into my memory. And in more ways into theirs. So, when they are older and fighting over clothes or boys. When they have silent treatment matches, I can force them to look back on now and how grand their bond truly is.

We had two such moments last week. The first was on a random adventure to Target. (And yes, in our house Target can be quit the adventure.) Hubbins and I have been looking for a bike for Ladybug and so decided that it was as good a time as any to check out what Target had to offer. Of course, we choose a time far too close to bedtime at the end of a busy day. So, after the third or fourth, "Your too little" or "We aren't getting anything today," Lil Giraffe was done. In the middle of the aisle she melted down. These melt downs always come with mommy guilt especially because with both girls, we were lucky and they didn't have them often. Knowing she was tried Hubbins and I tried to gently calm her down and encourage her to look at more things to no avail. Up walks Ladybug, she asked Hubbins if she could talk to Sissy. She leaned down to be on eye level and began to tell her, How she understands that she wants the Minnie mouse helmet now and that its not fair. She whispers in sweet sister code to her and then asks if a kiss would make it all better. Lil Giraffe nod and with a kiss and hug from Big Sis everything was right with the world again. They held hands through the rest of the store and I choked back little tears of love and pride.

Then later that evening, we had to clean one of Ladybug's owies with peroxide. Ladybug is terrified of this stuff for good reason. It HURTS! She looks at me and says, "Mommy, I don't think I can be brave. I'm going to cry." I snuggled her close reassuring her that I was there and its OK to cry. With that Lil Giraffe jumps up and puts both hands on her hips. She proclaims, "I am brave and will save my Ladybug!" She hurries over and grabs the hand I'm not holding on to tight. As a family we huddle around helping Ladybug through this epic ordeal (because it is a HUGE thing for her), but I am positive that it was the little hand of her little sister reassuring her that she would be the brave one for a moment that got Bug through. Again, with a kiss and hug from sister life was better.

There are so many more memories, I cherish of the two of them. How Ladybug runs to their room at nap time if she hears even the slightest whimper from Sissy. How they snuggle close and read or play together when they believe no one is watching. How at the fair when someone was pushing her little sister around, Ladybug got up in her face and made the girl back off. How Lil Giraffe runs to Big Sister's aide when she is being tickled by mommy and daddy.  There's just so much I want to freeze about their love and bond. So, I will write down more moments and when they forget this love because I am sure at some point it wont be so cool to have a sister hanging around, I'll have them read this post and remind them just how special it is.

Sunday, July 28, 2013

23/52

A picture each week for a year. 
Her obsession. 
Just take the picture, Mom!



Monday, July 22, 2013

Coloring in the lines

Ladybug has gotten to be such a big girl this summer. Although, we still struggle with her attitude somedays, she has become an amazing little girl and wonderful big sister. This last week, I've noticed so many big steps-ok, maybe in hindsight they are pretty minor, but to her, she is conquering montains and that's what matters.

The Whistle

Little Bug has been working hard trying to figure out whistling this summer. She purses her lips and with intense concentration blows air through them. She was starting to get frustrated and you could see her considering giving up. Then last week a small breathy tune escaped her lips. The smile that spread across her suprised little face could have lit up New York City. She was so excited and proud of her whistle, running from Hubbins to me so she could show us the accomplishment.
Of course, this has lead to days filled with constant whistles in the one little tune she knows. During nap time this becomes especially frustrating. But when ever I go to tell her to stop for a bit, I see her still beyond thrilled little grin and I just dont have the heart. There will be plenty of time in life when she has to stiffle that excitment. When she is told to quiet down or stop. So for now, I want to let her whistle her heart out and as loud as possible.


Then over the weekend, I discovered she now colors in the lines. Gone are the days of crazy spastic toddler scripples. They are replaced by her careful neat little colors. Even on blank papers, she has begun to draw full pictures, not just random little designs. Like so many little and big things, this new discovery is so bitter sweet. Its one more step away from being Mommy's baby girl and a step towards being my big girl. I take comfort in the fact, although she colors in the lines, she still makes the picture her own. Turning a princess's dress into a rainbow. She adds stars and sparkles to the pony's tail and hair.
So like whistling, I am going to encourage her to find her own style and artist. To step away from the norm and embrace being Ladybug!


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And now, some pictures from our weekend. This weekend was jam packed though it didn't seem so until yesterday afternoon. So, anyway here is my picture recap though it is mostly of Saturday at Swim Days and Sunday just hanging with the girls.
Dinner date with Hubbins!
She is a little mommy lately. And she LOVES her little cousin!
Ready for the parade
She is a serious artist!
Ladybug's chalk outlines!
Lil Giraffe's chalk mermaid outline! 



Tuesday, July 16, 2013

Weekend fun

This last weekend was a blast. It was filled with relaxing family fun. There is something to be said about weekends that aren't over planned or filled to the brim with activities. Days that are spontanious and slow going. Where the only goal is to have fun and play with the girls. That was this weekend and it was PERFECT! Especially since my weekends start on Thursdays. My husband's on the other hand does not so the morning was spent with my girls in our fort. But that afternoon we went to the park and my grandparents.  

This is one of my all time favorite parks and I LOVE to take the girls. There is a giant slide, awesome tires (a LOT of tires) to play on and a mix of old and new equipment to play on. The girls, I think love the horse swings best as they refuse to get off them once on. We also made a little bunny friend that the girls named "Lala." It was the sweetest little bunny and let the girls get fairly close before running off.


Friday, Hubbins worked in the midmorning/early afternoon, so the girls and I went window shopping and I got my hair cut. Seriously, if you live in the Great Falls area and need a hair dresser, mine is the absolute best. She knows exactly what to do with my hair so that 1. I like it and 2. I can actually style it. But more importantly, she is the best theripist, yoda, friend, ext.... a person can find.





Saturday, we crossed picnic off our summer bucket list with a morning picnic at the park. There was something so peaceful and calming about being to the park early. The air was quiet and it was awesome to watch the park as it woke up and began to welcome runners, and quiet couples, and then the crazy of families and playing kids. Plus, the girls had so much fun and were filled with such an excitement. It goes in the top ten best ways to start your day, for sure!


Of course, you can't visit a park with kids without playing around. Our park has this cute little flower garden and the girls are obbsessed with it. I love the bottom picture of Lil Giraffe. She popped her hip out just as I took the picture! She is taking attitude lessons from big sis.




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Sunday was mini golf! We learned two valuable lessons. 1. The girls are a little too young still to really do the mini golf thing. 2. Its ok that they are a little too young and that they cheated and had more fun rolling the ball around and goofing off.
Lil Giraffe had no intrest in learning to golf and spent the majority of the time "pretending" then giving up to roll the ball or run off laughing. Ladybug, though, at least tried but got a little frustrated with not being able to do it perfect. This is something I have discovered we will need to work on. After a talk that its ok to not do it the "right" way and its more important to just have fun, she joined her sister in the activity of rolling and playing. We ended up only doing half the holes as it was nap time and Lil Giraffe had an epic melt down. Thankfully, the owner was their and gave us a rain check for next summer. Here's to hoping it will be a little easier then.

Thursday, July 11, 2013

Day off essentials

Today is my day off and since we are a two parents working (although one part time) household again, my to do is list is LONG. I woke up dreading the day and some hard things I will have to do later on. This and being over tired lead to a mild tantrum. It was not my finest moment and thankfully both girls were still asleep and Hubbins can relate to morning melt downs. Can't we all really? 

So, anyway, after a coffee date with a great friend and some pouting about, I decide the to do list could wait. Hubbins had already done some of it before leaving to work and I had laundry going. The rest, well, it wasn't essential. What was essential today? Making a fort for the girls and then cuddling up in the fort with baby dolls and books. It was trying to teach the girls bingo and checkers only to realize those games are still a little too difficult for them so we had a ball with the princess checker pieces instead. And a nap, oh was a nap essential this morning. So after Hubbins comes home, I'll handle one more adult to do thing and then come back for time being a mommy and playing. Because after all the stress, this family needs a little laughter and play time. 


Monday, July 8, 2013

Fourth of July weekend in photos

This weekend was filled with fun and friends. There's not much more to say than that, so here's all the pictures of our fun.