Raising Blondes with Redhead Attitude

Raising Blondes with Redhead Attitude

Tuesday, January 26, 2016

The Art of Parenting

That seems like such a pretentious title, but I do believe that it is an art. Like art, everyone has their own style, way of doing it and opinion on what is "good." It also takes skill and practice. Like artists, it is really easy to let negative opinions affect a parent's self worth. Its often times easy to forget that we are in fact the best artist when it comes to our kids.

I get it. On those days were the house is a stage 4 disaster, the kids have driven you crazy to the point you've given in to cereal for dinner, and you are on day 2 makeup with day 3 hair; its so easy to forget how amazing we are. How beautiful and magnificent our artwork really is. So let me take a moment to pat your back and remind you of all the wonderfulness that is you.

You are awesome and fierce. Think of all that you have accomplished or will before falling into bed tonight. More than likely you woke not only before the sun but also before your kids. You stumbled through the house straightening here and there, gathering laundry, replacing homework in backpacks. Before that first blissful coffee, you woke up kids, fed and changed the baby, made breakfast and ensure kids were actually getting ready for school. You shuttle kids to school, to daycare, to play date or the various activities. You probably warmed that coffee up at least once before finally getting to drink it, or ended up grabbing one before heading to work, errands, etc.... You changed who knows how many diapers, picked up what seems like hundreds of toys, did countless other chores. You spent the evening running from activity to activity, cooked dinner, brushed hair and teeth, checked homework, bathed kids and made sure everyone's needs were meant. Then after kids are in bed, the house is cleanish, and everyone is happy; you finally get to sit down for just a moment. Or you simply crawled into bed in desperate need of sleep, so you have energy to do it all again.

Wow, look at all of that. Truly you are a spectacular, and your talents are many. You created time to finish the never ending list. You painted beautiful memories full of glittery moments. You molded young children and you help to sculpt the adults they will one day be. You create a loving home and made it special. Your gallery is filled with magic, and filled with masterpieces. You are in fact the perfect artist for the job.

So on those bad days, and especially the ones that turn into bad weeks, remember that you deserve a pat on the back. You deserve the gold star. Don't count the items on the "to-do" but count the ones on the "I did." Trust me, your kids appreciate the masterpiece that you create for them. And it truly is a masterpiece.

Celebrating one

Friday, January 22, 2016

Button 12 month update

Height: 30.5ins
Weight: 19lbs 6oz
Hair/Eyes: You officially have blue gray eyes and are strawberry blonde. 
Sleep: Since the binkie has stopped, naps have as well. But you are still a good night sleeper and will snuggle into mommy for cat naps. 
Food: You love food and are completely off baby food. You will only eat what everyone else has and prefer to eat mommy or daddy's food first. Your favorite food is oranges and your least is bananas. 
Favorites: The teepee is your favorite thing lately that and books. You love to hide in the teepee and read. You also love your lambie and glow bug. 
Dislikes: You have a strong dislike of bananas, being told "no" (you love pushing your limits and saying no to everyone though.), and I think that is it. 
Milestones: You started walking and standing up all by yourself. You are also talking like crazy and have 8 teeth. 

Tuesday, January 19, 2016

How are you one?

Dear Button-
Its a little strange to think that you have been alive for only a year and at the same time its strange that its already been a whole year. You have completed our family and fit so seamlessly in. You are such an important part of all our lives and I feel so blessed to get to be your mom.

You are always so happy and full of giggles. You already show so much personality and love to make others laugh. You get so proud of yourself when someone starts to giggle at you and it's the cutest thing to watch. You are also so adventurous and love to figure out how this big world works. You are constantly on the move by whatever means is fastest, (You prefer sliding through the house or crawling.) You are also in to everything, climbing things and constantly on the look out for the next big baby adventure.

You are also so strong, baby girl. You have been a fighter since day one and nothing can keep you down for very long. You went through so much this first few months of life, but smiled through all the obsticals. You must have know how strong and brave you were even then. I have no doubts that you will take on this world with a feisty spirit, smile and your stubbornness. 

It has been so much fun watching you grow and learn this first year. I'm so excited to see what the future holds for you and feel so blessed to be your mommy! 

I love you, Button! 
Love, Mommy

Monday, January 11, 2016

Parenting Path

This is a hard post to write, one I never imagined writing. It's not bright and cheery, or about all the awesome bright technicolor moments of being parents. Its about the times when you feel a little lost, helpless and not sure what the right move is.
I never thought that the emotions that are so very overwhelming to me would trickle down to our girls. I should have, I should have been prepared, or aware of what was happening. But the parenting path isn't always lit with neon signs. It is often dark, twisting and full of weeds. We are learning to navigate those turns, cut through the weeds and to use night goggles when needed.
 Life isn't fair, its rarely easy and more often than not you take the wrong fork in the road. Parenting is no different from that. Often times you end up lost and searching for the right tools to guide you back to flower filled meadows. The girls are struggling emotionally. We can see it and are doing our best to help them find the way to their path again. It's hard to watch your kids struggle, to know something is very wrong and that a kiss won't fix the owie.
So what do you do when all your tools seem to be wrong, when the flash light runs out of batteries, and your map has taken a swim? How do you handle the unknown, the scary moments that are so crucial to life? I don't know how to answer those questions for everyone. For me, I pray and seek advise from mom friends who have been there, I run to my own parents in desperation of how to fix it. When all those seem to fall short, you stop and listen. You hold your babies tight, and let them fall asleep snuggled safely in your arms. You stop whatever else is going on and you let your babies hold on tight. That's what we are doing. We are letting our big girls crawl into open arms where they feel secure and we are listening to them cry over small things that seem so very big right now. We are taking deep breaths, when they are a little more emotional and angry. 
The path of life is hard sometimes and these little girls are dealing with big people emotions. Its all to often easy to overlook that all the chaos that is surrounding us, is doing the same to them. The parenting path is all to often a field with spooky eyes, and scary shadows. But in the end all your children need are you and to crawl into the safety of your arms. So no matter how big they are, stop and listen to them; hold them tight until the scary world passes by. 

Sunday, January 10, 2016

10 on 10

One of my goals is to document our days a little more. I love the idea of 10 on 10, and I'm so excited to link up this year. 

Today was a pretty mellow family and house project day. 
She believes this is her blanket and we spend the morning snuggled in. 
Playing with my old kitty from my childhood. 
Yay laundry!!!
Finally unpacking our bedroom and putting things together. 
The pile of books I always have with me.
Playing silly putty and creating all sorts of fun things. 
Cooking dinner and watching iron chief 
Big sis decided to use the iPod to learn how to fold a pretzel. She then taught her sister. 
And full circle, snuggling a Button to sleep. It's also her first night without a binkie.